Today is December 31st. The day we all resolve to do better, be better, make the New Year the best one yet. We think about our diets, our fitness routines, our habits, and then vow to change one…or ALL of them.
This year, I want to focus on being a great human. Recognize my behaviors, how they affect me, how I treat people, and what mark I want to make on the world. How can I make myself happier? How can I enter everyday with a grateful heart? How can I make sure to do my part to make each day awesome, not only for myself, but for others?
So this year, I am going to resolve to do three things…
As admittedly 7th grade as this may sound, I want to stop gossiping. I don’t ever do it intentionally or ever intend harm, but am guilty of getting sucked into it. I recently read an article about how gossiping is part of our nature. When people gossip, it makes them feel connected. It is human nature to want to connect, but when we gossip, it is a slippery slope that quickly becomes out of control. I am by nature a very social person that craves human connection, but before I speak I will ask myself…is this true, is it helpful, is it kind? If the answer to any of those questions is “no”. Then I am out, not saying it. This is going to take a lot of patience and work on my part, as I am not the best with impulse control, but I vow to start the year off with choosing my words carefully and honestly.
Next, I want to work on my follow through. I am an idea person. I have ideas running through my head all the time, I feel like my brain never shuts off. I want to do this, start this, work on this, develop this program, you name it…I have had a plan for it. My issue is not following through. I have these great ideas, well at least I think they are great (ha!), and a lot of them I have half-started. Then I stop. Maybe it is because I didn’t get the response I thought I was going to get, I was afraid of putting myself out there, or people might say “who does she think she is?”. This is the year to stop the excuses and follow through. Who cares if people think my idea is stupid? Who cares if people don’t immediately think my idea is genius? At this point, I have nothing to lose. If I never follow through with anything, I will never know if something could be successful, right? And maybe, just maybe, one of my ideas or programs takes off and I become wildly successful…and then I will bring all of you with me!
Lastly, I want to make sure I take the time to let the people in my life know that that they matter. I am usually pretty good at this, but this year I feel as though I have fallen off. I could come up with a million different excuses as to why…new job, life is busy, kids, keeping up with the house, blah…blah…blah. None of those excuses are good enough, there is never an excuse or a reason to not take one minute of time to tell someone you love or care about that you appreciate them. So, each week for the next year, I am going to send out a “You Matter” text to the people in my life that make me a better person. Be on the look out for yours!
The way I see it, if I can tackle these three things I will be headed in a direction of positivity and joy. I will be living my truth and true to my values. I feel as though once you begin to live in a way that is true to your values, it is amazing that the other things, our “typical” resolutions…better diet, more exercise, big dreams and big goals…might just fall into place all on their own! Plus, now that I have put this out there, I expect to be held accountable and give any of you my full permission to “call me on the carpet” if I am not doing my part. Now, my challenge to all of you is…how do you plan to make 2019 the year of being a great human?